How to make Dating in College Work


College is tough enough as it is — you have tests, epic amounts of work, a usually minuscule budget. It’s not easy. College remains that quintessential time in a young man’s life when he is pretty much encouraged to hook up with any willing woman he can. So, how does one successfully date in college? First of all, you need to throw out all you’ve read or learned previously, and pay attention to this one, magical word: confidence. You need it. Follow this list in order to make your next relationship last, and work.

Don’t use dating apps.
Don’t use apps like Tinder with the expectations that you’re going to go on a date and live happily ever after. Online dating is a great idea, but while you’re in college you’re surrounded by tons of singles about your age all day. I mean, the whole app is based on looks. You literally see a persons face and within 2 seconds you have already swiped left or right. A better way to meet people is to go out and join clubs, go to campus events, or go out to parties. Get involved and don’t be afraid to say, hello.

Play hard to get.
Playing hard to get is the best way to get a guy to look at you as potentially being a future girlfriend. Let him be the one to reach out to you, don’t text him every two seconds unless your really drunk, then it’s fine. If you forgot, playing hard to get means to give him your number the night you meet, and not going home with him. Another part of playing hard to get would be to not even think about staying over at his place until after the third date. Resist the temptation!

Being to patient.
The golden rule in college is that you make friends and meet girls in the first week or two. The dorms are a perfect place to find your automatic BFF. This is when friendships are born as people are actively searching for people to hang out with. Sometimes, the right one doesn’t come around until 3 months before you are graduating.

Compliments are key.
Girls love getting compliments. This is college after all, and some days we don’t give it a lot of effort. Just make sure that your compliment does not come off as creepy. For example, a good compliment would be “You look really nice/beautiful.” However, compliments can be very creepy too if you use the wrong body language or compliment the wrong thing. Most important: make sure your compliments are genuine and you do not overdo them, then they just get annoying.

Watch your expectations.
Have fun on your dates, and don’t put so much pressure on it. Yes, you should always have high standards, but this guy you met that is also in college is probably on a pretty little budget like most college students. Don’t expect sushi dinners and fro-yo dates overnight because that adds up and you will just be let down.

Don’t let hooking up get in the way of a relationship.
With so many different types of guys around, it’s tempting to sample them all! Why not, right? Hookups can be fun, but a lot of times they’re mini bombs that lead to hurting someone in the equation. At the typical party, you can’t always tell which guys want a one-night hookup and which ones truly like you. Meet guys and have fun, but stick with your friends at parties so you can watch out for one another.

Be passionate.
I love listening to people talk about things that they care about deeply. When a guy is passionate about something, then his love for life shines through and  the richness of his experiences becomes evident. Not only will your get to learn more about one another by digging deeper, but you also will create a lasting relationship.